Co-Regulation

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Companion Slides

Calm is literally contagious. Match, then lead. Your nervous system regulates theirs.

Key Concepts

  • Co-regulation: lending your regulated nervous system to someone in distress
  • Mirror neurons — calm really is contagious
  • Match, then lead: briefly match their energy, then slowly down-regulate
  • Your tone of voice, breathing rate, and body language are tools
  • You cannot co-regulate if you are dysregulated yourself

Part of

Module 4: Practical Skills

Listening, validation, co-regulation, de-escalation, disclosure, boundaries, and putting it all together.